Well, how are things going in your lesbian world? Things are going well for me and I'm very glad that I'm living as a lesbian rather than a straight person. It has been a long time since I've been attracted to a male. I have no desire to go back to that. I do believe there is a definite continuum we move along and some people stay near the midddle and fall in the bisexual category, while some move farther and only desire women. Then there are those women who are only attracted to women their whole lives but get married for other reasons.
I think I was definitely attracted to the man I married but it is true that I only gave myself that possibility. What if, at 18, I had considered women, what would I have done? I don't know. But I didn't consider that back then. Again, the continuum theory and that we are somewhat flexible.
But then, there are those women who knew at 12.
When we married first, that gives us other issues to deal with when we come out including family members, spouse, children, in-laws, etc. When we come out as a single person, coming out at 40 is much different than coming out at 15. I guess that's up to each person to decide how difficult that is. Today, many high school students are open about their homosexuality - more girls than boys. As a matter of fact, I see girls exploring that possibility and talking about being gay before they are even sure - dating a girl once and next dating a boy. But unlike me, they are at least open to exploring both possibilities.
And we all have different coming out stories. I was in my 40's, but I have a long-term friend who still feels somewhat betrayed by me because I didn't tell her before about my "journey". I guess it was my choice not to tell people until I was making an outward display of my sexuality by dating women.
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