What is a lesbian after marriage?

Well, as stated in an Advocate article this fall, a LAM is a term for a woman who has been married and then decided to live a lesbian lifestyle after marriage and/or children. I am one of
those women. I suppose I always had something in my character that understood that lifestyle but I dated men in adolesence and college, then married. 5 years later, I followed with children and I have 3 wonderful children, so perhaps this was always meant to be. I believe they will
all contribute to make the world a better place.

I also believe people move along a continuum during their lifetime, if they are doing their evolutionary work. I certainly did - by this, I don't mean everyone becomes gay, but they
become more accepting of differences, etc.

I raised my children and did some serious exploration of the lesbian lifestyle without telling anyone. I was already divorced so this didn't affect my marriage, although that is not uncommon for others and I believe this often makes it more difficult and messy, with angry
feelings, and often custody fights.

I am a therapist as a career, and I have been exposed to many scenarios negatively affecting children. This is a hard part.

I am writing and I hope others respond. I will try to share insights, ideas, resources, etc. and I hope you will, also.

Hoping much peace and joy for you,
Chris