Gay Republican?

Gay Republican?

What do you think of the Republicans?
Is there a connection between politics and your sexual orientation?  I have always heard of Log Cabin Republicans - these are republicans who are gay.  I never understood how the 2 go together, but I think it is more about financial/fiscal philosophy than social responsibility.  But it is also true that the Republican party is not recognizable any longer.  The republican congress and senate are now so extreme, I don't know how you could be both.

Gay Republican?

I personally assume that the fact that one is LGBQT in this society would make a person more aware of the difficulties people face, including prejudice, discrimination, lack of rights, etc. But from what I've seen, the republicans in Washington want to take away rights of the middle class and poor.  So does it work to be a Gay Republican if you are in the top 1%.  I am not bashing here, merely wondering out loud how that would happen.  I must admit that I tend toward a populist,socialist philosophy.  I would like universal health care, affordability for housing, jobs.  I have been around awhile and have seen the shrinking of that middle class because of Republican views - Reagan's trickle down economics certainly doesn't help the poor.  Their unwillingness to put money in social programs does not help the people.  Often LGBQT people are homeless as youth, are oppressed, subjected to losing a job because they are gay.  Just look what happens in the south.  Signs in windows saying we will not serve you if you are gay.  The circuit clerk in Kentucky refusing a marriage license to a lesbian couple.  This is where I have to wonder "How?"

Gay Republican?

Again, no judgment here.  I am a bit tainted right now about what I see that a few republican congressmen are saying about women's rights, rape, domestic violence, right to services, and it is INSANE!  I'm not sure how to put it all together.  I personally am a very liberal progressive.  In my mind it means we have gone backwards in how we treat people and we need to go forward again.  We need to help with school loans, taxes, better paying jobs, treat all people equally.  Blacks, hispanics, LGBQT, women should not be seen as less than anyone or anything.  I am so proud to be a lesbian and we have Ellen DeGeneres, Rosie O'Donnell, Jody Foster, Rachel Maddow, Stephanie Miller, Melissa Etheridge, Kate Clinton, to name a few strong women who make a difference in the world and care about people.  Good company to keep.  

Lesbian Coming Out Question

Lesbians- hello.  This blog is for anyone, but from my own experience I had different struggles with realizing I was gay, with children, etc.  I was already divorced, but so many things went into play.  If you are a "lesbian after marriage" i.e. someone who realized after you had a family in the heterosexual sense, this is the group I'm addressing.

Lesbians at all ages have struggles, all different.  I've known people who knew they were gay early on and never dated men.  The variation on whether their families accepted them or not.  Did their friends give up on them?  How did they feel about themselves?  Same questions for "lesbians after marriage" but some variants are included.  I had 3 children.  I had friends who only saw me one way.  Truly, a very few had wondered, but never said anything.

How does one tell their teen/young adult children that they prefer women to date?

How does one tell their friends that the person they have known all those years is different, and/or lying to them, as may be perceived?

How does one tell their birth family when they might be 40 years old, and "By the way, I'm gay."

I seriously do have some PTSD from those moments.  I had one friend go with me to tell other friends.  One of my issues is that I am an empath - which means I respond to others' emotions and needs, sometimes over my own needs.  So when I told all these people, I was deeply concerned about them.  One friend - who remains a close friend - still struggles with my not telling them before - and this was 16 years ago.  She feels like she may have been insensitive and that I should have told her.

Lesbians After Marriage

My question to you is:  Is there a defining moment?  That time when you just know for sure that you choose women over men. 

  Another question is Does that make me "bi"?  I say no, because since that self-exploration, I've never wanted to go back to dating men.  There is nothing in me that says "Date Men" or "I'm attracted to men."  Now, I love male energy.  I have sons who I'm crazy about, and grandsons.  It is not about that.  In schools, I enjoy male energy a great deal.  But when it comes to the intimacy I choose women.

Question 2:  Do you believe sexuality is on the continuum, and using that idea, does that mean I crossed over the middle and could only be a lesbian?   

Some food for thought for all of you.  Leave comments.