I have included some movies and books that I found to be very enjoyable when I was living with my children and not really out to anybody - but myself, that is. I also had reason to not have people know about my process and questioning - certainly not until I was sure. I would attend those concerts, go out of town, watch videos - bought on-line. I would also read many of these books and lesbian fiction - it always seemed when I went to the bookstore, someone I knew would be there - was afraid to be seen in "that" section - wow, what a process. I've come a long way. Not everyone starts in the same place - some people would be much more comfortable than I was. Others, less comfortable.
So, please consider my suggestions and feel free to make your own suggestions.
Peace and Joy,
Chris
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Friday, March 21, 2008
coming out later????
This blog is for women and about women who come out later in life - women who are exploring their sexual orientation later in life, perhaps after marriage, children, etc. Whether it happens when they meet that special woman, or perhaps they just find themselves attracted to someone special and it does not go past that, but they then begin exploring what the heck is going on. Women need someone to talk to. I have a friend who drove 60 miles to find someone without risk. I myself found myself going to see gay singers alone and watching the crowd around me.
Soaking up the atmosphere, so to speak. I would love being in environments where there were gay people, but it was hard to find such opportunities.
I found I loved to go on the gay websites I knew about and eventually began the gay dating sites. I was older at this time, and my children were older at this time - no one knew, but I needed to be sure - I'm guessing that if we are exploring, we PROBABLY ARE. Otherwise, why would it be such a temptation - but perhaps that's just MY perspective - what is yours?
In peace,
Chris
Soaking up the atmosphere, so to speak. I would love being in environments where there were gay people, but it was hard to find such opportunities.
I found I loved to go on the gay websites I knew about and eventually began the gay dating sites. I was older at this time, and my children were older at this time - no one knew, but I needed to be sure - I'm guessing that if we are exploring, we PROBABLY ARE. Otherwise, why would it be such a temptation - but perhaps that's just MY perspective - what is yours?
In peace,
Chris
Friday, March 14, 2008
Lesbians afte 30
We have started this website, blog, and google group for the benefit of women who are coming out later in life.
Write us, share with us, and ask your questions. We hope to grow this website and service to help many women who might be struggling with their discovery about their sexual orientation - perhaps post-marriage, children, etc.
The day happens when we meet that special woman who creates new feelings, passion, perhaps an obsession in our lives, and that one woman is the introduction to our exploring our own beliefs about our sexuality - are we Lesbians or are we just temporarily infatuated with this woman - after all, we don't really FEEL like a different person - I am still the same!! This is all part of the
struggle that is hard to go through ALONE. Especially when you have a crush on another woman but you do not know how they feel? Also, I have other people in my life.
I am going to close this post tonite - please feel free to write.
Peace,
Chris
Write us, share with us, and ask your questions. We hope to grow this website and service to help many women who might be struggling with their discovery about their sexual orientation - perhaps post-marriage, children, etc.
The day happens when we meet that special woman who creates new feelings, passion, perhaps an obsession in our lives, and that one woman is the introduction to our exploring our own beliefs about our sexuality - are we Lesbians or are we just temporarily infatuated with this woman - after all, we don't really FEEL like a different person - I am still the same!! This is all part of the
struggle that is hard to go through ALONE. Especially when you have a crush on another woman but you do not know how they feel? Also, I have other people in my life.
I am going to close this post tonite - please feel free to write.
Peace,
Chris
Monday, March 10, 2008
We're thinking of you!!
Please note that this is a support blog - not based on sexual content - I notice that the word lesbian brings up much pornographic material on the internet. I am not sure how to separate us from that genre, but I hope that those looking for honest support and someone to talk to will
find us. There are a number of political issues going on and still much homophobia and discrimination going on and we hope to be a safe "normal" place on the internet. There are many women who have lived traditional lives who may be seeking a listening ear out of fear, confusion, etc.
We are here to help you - let us know what you need. We are busy being as creative as possible - a year from now we expect a whole new website, but we didn't want to wait for a finished project. There is so much going on, so it is a work in progress!! We hope to come up with our Lesbian Survival Kit.
So get on board and tell us what you need. When I have offered my one-day workshops there is
always interest in the area just where I live. We know there are many more women who need support and help. We hope to come up with on-line information, support materials, and offer groups in the Chicago area.
Please stay in touch.
Joy,
Chris
find us. There are a number of political issues going on and still much homophobia and discrimination going on and we hope to be a safe "normal" place on the internet. There are many women who have lived traditional lives who may be seeking a listening ear out of fear, confusion, etc.
We are here to help you - let us know what you need. We are busy being as creative as possible - a year from now we expect a whole new website, but we didn't want to wait for a finished project. There is so much going on, so it is a work in progress!! We hope to come up with our Lesbian Survival Kit.
So get on board and tell us what you need. When I have offered my one-day workshops there is
always interest in the area just where I live. We know there are many more women who need support and help. We hope to come up with on-line information, support materials, and offer groups in the Chicago area.
Please stay in touch.
Joy,
Chris
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