Well, as stated in an Advocate article this fall, a LAM is a term for a woman who has been married and then decided to live a lesbian lifestyle after marriage and/or children. I am one of
those women. I suppose I always had something in my character that understood that lifestyle but I dated men in adolesence and college, then married. 5 years later, I followed with children and I have 3 wonderful children, so perhaps this was always meant to be. I believe they will
all contribute to make the world a better place.
I also believe people move along a continuum during their lifetime, if they are doing their evolutionary work. I certainly did - by this, I don't mean everyone becomes gay, but they
become more accepting of differences, etc.
I raised my children and did some serious exploration of the lesbian lifestyle without telling anyone. I was already divorced so this didn't affect my marriage, although that is not uncommon for others and I believe this often makes it more difficult and messy, with angry
feelings, and often custody fights.
I am a therapist as a career, and I have been exposed to many scenarios negatively affecting children. This is a hard part.
I am writing and I hope others respond. I will try to share insights, ideas, resources, etc. and I hope you will, also.
Hoping much peace and joy for you,
Chris
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Did your marriage end because of you figuring out who you were or other reasons? I have a friend who is struggling with her sexuality and married. I've been out since I was 21 and was lucky enough to have wonderful family and friends that helped me come to that realization with minimal trouble. I've found her a counselor on a pride network that I hope will help her find some clarity. My advice seems not to help...advising her to tell her husband she's struggling with who she is and after 8 years...may need to reevaluate their relatioship. I can't help someone with that terrible fear. What did you do?
I am a lesbian after marriage myself. I have 3 kids. I left an abusive relationship (with numerous female partners involved due to my ex's sick mind)and have fallen in love with the woman who I was created for I have 3 children from my prior marriage and I am trying to find my place in the lesbian community. I have so many questions!!!
Becca
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